They posted the old photo again
A friend posted an old photo in the group chat. Even after being asked to take it down, the photo kept being passed around.
Jia asks her friend to take down an old photo posted without her permission, but the friend shows it to everyone again, calling it a memory.
An old photo from a college trip resurfaces in the group chat after a long time. Jia asks for it to be taken down, but her friend brushes it off and shows the same photo again at the gathering. Haeon looks with Jia at the moment the behavior continued even after she said she didn't like it, rather than focusing on the photo itself.
When it's hard to ask someone to take down a photo
Even if it's called a memory, I get to decide where my photo is shown, and that requires my consent.
When was a time you asked someone not to show a photo or story?
The scene of that photo being placed before everyone again, even after she asked for it to be taken down, stays with me. What stood out more than the photo itself was that the same thing continued after she said she didn't like it. If you've ever been left alone after saying something similar, please tell me about that moment too.
Scenes
- 01 · The night the photo was posted 01 · The night the photo was posted — On Friday night, an old travel photo appeared in the college friends' group chat. Jia recognized her own face in it, but couldn't swipe past the screen. Jia: Why did they post this…
- 02 · Asking them to take it down 02 · Asking them to take it down — Jia sent a private message to Minseok, who posted the photo. She wrote, “Could you take this photo down?” Minseok replied right away. Minseok: But everyone liked it as a memory, didn't they? Jia: It makes me uncomfortable. I want you to take it down.
- 03 · The photo opens again 03 · The photo opens again — At the gathering the next day, Minseok brought out the same photo and showed it to the friends again. Jia had asked him to take it down the day before, but the photo was placed before everyone once more. Minseok: You remember this, right? Jia was hilarious. Jia: I told you not to show that photo.
- 04 · Where the words remain 04 · Where the words remain — Jia sets the photo on the table and brings up how she had asked Minseok twice to take it down. It was the moment the same photo was placed before everyone again even after she said, “Take it down.” Haeon: More than the photo, is it what continued after you asked them to take it down that stayed with you? Jia: Yes. That they showed it again even after I said that.
Stories by Haeon
- Haeon
- Monday morning, and our conversation keeps getting pushed back
- The conversation about contraception stays with you on the way home.
- A Weekend Plan Made in Silence
- After I read the word “normal,” it starts to feel like it’s about me.
- The night they returned from the funeral, they were moving at different speeds.
- After saying no at the celebration, I’m worried about seeing them again.
- After the funeral, it’s hard to talk about our boundaries again
- A weekend afternoon, wondering how to ask about affection