A Weekend Plan Made in Silence
One weekend afternoon, her partner had already made plans for them. Sitting at the table without saying a word, Jimin revisits that moment of silence in…
Even after her partner made weekend plans, Jimin couldn’t answer. Haeon helps her look at the difference between silence and agreement, and at the words she couldn’t say then.
One weekend afternoon at home, Jimin’s partner decides where they’ll go the next day and waits for her answer. Jimin puts down her phone but says nothing. Her partner takes the silence as a yes and carries on with the plan. Only then does Jimin speak. In counseling, Haeon points to the moment her silence was taken as an answer. The story pauses there, still unfinished.
When Silence Is Taken as Consent
When you don’t treat someone’s silence as consent, there’s room to check what you both want.
Have you ever taken someone’s silence as an answer? What happened?
The moment her partner took her silence as a yes stays with you. When you fill a moment without an answer with agreement, you end up deciding for the person who hasn’t been able to speak yet. If you’ve been through something similar, you’re welcome to share that moment, too.
Scenes
- 01 · Weekend Plans Plans Already Made — On a weekend afternoon, Minjae says where they’ll go the next day. Jimin looks down at her phone without answering. Minjae: Let’s get lunch tomorrow, then go see the exhibit.
- 02 · An Unspoken Answer Words Fill the Silence — When Jimin doesn’t answer, Minjae takes her silence as a yes and keeps talking about their plans. Minjae: Then I’ll book the tickets.
- 03 · Finding the Words The Moment She Couldn’t Speak — In the counseling room, Jimin says that when her partner made weekend plans, she didn’t answer at all. Jimin: I just stayed quiet. Haeon: After you went quiet, did Minjae say right away that he’d book the tickets?
- 04 · At the Threshold of Consent The Answer That Followed the Silence — When Jimin says Minjae took her silence as consent, she can’t say anything. Jimin: I didn’t say a thing, but it was like I’d said yes. Haeon: When silence is taken as consent, where does that leave the person who couldn’t speak?
Stories by Haeon
- Haeon
- Monday morning, and our conversation keeps getting pushed back
- The conversation about contraception stays with you on the way home.
- After I read the word “normal,” it starts to feel like it’s about me.
- The night they returned from the funeral, they were moving at different speeds.
- After saying no at the celebration, I’m worried about seeing them again.
- After the funeral, it’s hard to talk about our boundaries again
- A weekend afternoon, wondering how to ask about affection
- I smile and say I’m fine when it comes to talking about my body.