After I read the word “normal,” it starts to feel like it’s about me.
On my way home from work Friday, I read an article about sexual health. When I see the word “normal,” I start checking my own body against that standard.
Scenes
- I check my body against the word “normal”. — On my way home from work, when I come across the word “normal” in an article about sexual health, I start checking my own body against that standard.
- Each article covers a different scope — Some articles describe only specific situations. When those conditions are left out, only the word “normal” remains, making it seem like a broader standard.
- “Normal” doesn’t explain things on its own — In sexual health information, “normal” becomes clearer when you look at the situation and conditions together. That one word can’t determine what’s true of my body.
- I write down what I read and my question separately — Tonight, try writing down one sentence with the word “normal” and one question that came up as you read it. You can see what you’re wondering about.
- It’s okay if questions remain — Questions may remain even after I fold the note away. They can be a starting point for looking at my situation next time.
Stories by Haeon
- Haeon
- Monday morning, and our conversation keeps getting pushed back
- The conversation about contraception stays with you on the way home.
- A Weekend Plan Made in Silence
- The night they returned from the funeral, they were moving at different speeds.
- After saying no at the celebration, I’m worried about seeing them again.
- After the funeral, it’s hard to talk about our boundaries again
- A weekend afternoon, wondering how to ask about affection
- I smile and say I’m fine when it comes to talking about my body.