A weekend afternoon, wondering how to ask about affection
On a weekend afternoon, we’re relaxing together at home. I can see the things they do for me, but I often find it hard to say what I’d like to hear.
Scenes
- Relaxing together, but I can’t say what I want to hear — Even when we’re together at home on a weekend afternoon, I hesitate over how to ask for the affection I want to hear.
- I remember what they did for me — Even if I remember how they looked after me, whether I heard the words I wanted is another matter.
- People show affection in different ways — One person may show affection by taking care of things, while another uses kind words. When the ways you’re used to differ, it’s easy to miss what the other person wants.
- Start with what you want to hear — Tonight, when you’re alone, write down in one sentence what you’d like to hear. Seeing it on the page can help you understand what you want.
- Find the words together — “I feel close when I hear words like these. What kind of words do you like?” Asking this can open a conversation where you can share what you each want.
Stories by Haeon
- Haeon
- Monday morning, and our conversation keeps getting pushed back
- The conversation about contraception stays with you on the way home.
- A Weekend Plan Made in Silence
- After I read the word “normal,” it starts to feel like it’s about me.
- The night they returned from the funeral, they were moving at different speeds.
- After saying no at the celebration, I’m worried about seeing them again.
- After the funeral, it’s hard to talk about our boundaries again
- I smile and say I’m fine when it comes to talking about my body.