I’m unsure whether to share the test results in the group chat.
You agreed to talk about contraception and testing together, but now you pause at the group chat notification, unsure how much to share.
Scenes
- I don’t know how much to share. — Even if you agreed to talk about the test results together, when the group chat notification comes in, you may find yourself unsure again about who to tell and how much to share.
- They spoke before asking me. — The two of you agreed to share the test results with each other. But when a friend asked about them in the group chat, the other person replied first.
- Taking the test together doesn’t mean sharing the results together. — Even if you took the test together, you can decide separately who to tell about the results. What you can share is what both of you feel okay with.
- Write down what you want to ask before sending anything. — Try writing, “How much should we share about our results in the group chat?” You don’t have to send it right away. You can read it over and see if it says what you want to ask.
- Decide together what to share. — Before the other person replies, you can ask what you’d like to share, too. Even after sharing the results, you can decide together again how much to tell others.
Stories by Haeon
- Haeon
- Monday morning, and our conversation keeps getting pushed back
- The conversation about contraception stays with you on the way home.
- A Weekend Plan Made in Silence
- After I read the word “normal,” it starts to feel like it’s about me.
- The night they returned from the funeral, they were moving at different speeds.
- After saying no at the celebration, I’m worried about seeing them again.
- After the funeral, it’s hard to talk about our boundaries again
- A weekend afternoon, wondering how to ask about affection