How do I say I’ve changed my mind after the work dinner?
I said it was okay at the work dinner, but on the way home, I felt differently. Saying yes once doesn’t mean you have to keep saying yes.
Scenes
- I said it was okay, but changed my mind on the way home — I said it was okay at the work dinner. But on the way home, I realized I didn’t want to leave it at that.
- I only felt uneasy after I answered — In the taxi on the way home, a message popped up asking me to confirm our plans. That’s when I realized my “it’s okay” didn’t match how I felt now.
- You don’t have to be bound by saying yes — Saying yes once doesn’t mean you have to keep saying yes. If your feelings change, you can say so and check in again.
- Tonight, write down how you feel now — Tonight, write how you feel now in one sentence: “I said it was okay earlier, but I feel differently now.”
- You can speak up again after your feelings change — Saying yes earlier doesn’t speak for how you feel now. From the moment you notice your feelings have changed, you can check in again.
Stories by Haeon
- Haeon
- Monday morning, and our conversation keeps getting pushed back
- The conversation about contraception stays with you on the way home.
- A Weekend Plan Made in Silence
- After I read the word “normal,” it starts to feel like it’s about me.
- The night they returned from the funeral, they were moving at different speeds.
- After saying no at the celebration, I’m worried about seeing them again.
- After the funeral, it’s hard to talk about our boundaries again
- A weekend afternoon, wondering how to ask about affection