I stopped scrolling through the photos.
One night, as they look back at old photos, it becomes clear who usually takes the first step between them.
Looking through old photos with her partner, she wants to ask him to make the first move, but can’t bring herself to say it. Instead, she stops on a photo.
One weekend evening, Minji scrolls through old photos with her partner, Jaehyun. She notices that she’s always the one who made the first move, and when Jaehyun is about to scroll on, she admits she wants him to make the first move sometimes. Haeon listens to their conversation and stays with Minji in the moment she can’t move to the next photo.
When you want them to make the first move
When one person keeps making the first move in an intimate relationship, you can start by looking at the moment you want to say what you’d like.
When have you wanted someone close to you to make the first move?
The moment her hand stopped before scrolling on stayed with her. Even in an intimate relationship, when one person is always the one to make the first move, a simple request can feel like a big step. If you’re holding a similar moment on your own, you’re welcome to tell us about it.
Scenes
- 01 · The night they looked at photos Old photos — On Saturday evening, Minji and Jaehyun scroll through old photos on a tablet. In every photo, Minji is the one who makes the first move and smiles. Jaehyun: Wow, this was ages ago. Minji: Yeah. I remember going there.
- 02 · Who made the first move Me in the photos — Minji was the one who made the first move in every photo. As Jaehyun starts to scroll to the next one, Minji speaks up. Minji: Looking at these, I can see I was always the one who made the first move. Jaehyun: Was that so? I didn’t realize.
- 03 · The screen stops The photo they couldn’t move past — Jaehyun looks up from the tablet at Minji. She leaves the photo on screen and adds that she wanted him to make the first move. Jaehyun: You mean you want me to make the first move? Minji: Yeah. That’s what I wanted to say.
- 04 · Where the words stopped I wish you’d come to me first — Minji wanted to ask Jaehyun to make the first move. The photo stays on screen, and Haeon waits for Minji to continue. Haeon: Minji, now that you’ve said that, how are you feeling? Minji: I’m still not sure. I can’t think of what to say next.
Stories by Haeon
- Haeon
- A Weekend Plan Made in Silence
- After I read the word “normal,” it starts to feel like it’s about me.
- The night they returned from the funeral, they were moving at different speeds.
- After saying no at the celebration, I’m worried about seeing them again.
- After the funeral, it’s hard to talk about our boundaries again
- A weekend afternoon, wondering how to ask about affection
- I smile and say I’m fine when it comes to talking about my body.
- After the celebration, it’s hard to bring up contraception again.