Should I tell my family a secret?
After everyone in the house was asleep, the hexagram I’d laid out alone caught my eye first. I still didn’t have an answer to what might change if I said it.
Jimin is unsure whether to tell her family something she’s kept secret. In the sleeping house, she lays out the I Ching hexagram and, with Haewol, looks at the moment that secret might reach her family.
On a night when her family is asleep, Jimin seeks out Haewol to ask whether she should reveal a secret she’s kept for a long time. Haewol lays out the I Ching hexagram, but instead of reading her the outcome, he helps her look at whether she fears her family’s reaction or continuing to carry the secret alone. The secret itself is never revealed; only the choice of whether to speak remains.
When telling your family a secret
When you’re unsure whether to speak or keep it hidden, you can look at what might change along each path instead of asking which one is right.
What’s something you really want to tell your family but keep putting off?
There are nights when you pause for a long time just before speaking, wondering how your family will hear what you have to say. Today, we looked together at how revealing a secret and continuing to hide it each place a different burden on one person. If you’re holding something similar, you can tell that story slowly, too.
Scenes
- 01 · Lights in the sleeping house A night no one knows about — After her family falls asleep, Jimin wonders alone whether to tell them the secret she’s kept for so long.
- 02 · A guest who laid out a hexagram A question on paper — Jimin lays out the I Ching hexagram in front of Haewol and asks whether she should reveal an important secret to her family. Jimin: Can I tell my family this? Haewol: Jimin, what stood out to you first when you laid out the hexagram?
- 03 · Words left unspoken All this time keeping it hidden — Without revealing what the secret is, Jimin admits that keeping it hidden is hard, too. Jimin: It’s hard to keep it to myself, too. Haewol: Both paths feel heavy: keeping it hidden and telling them. Which one comes to mind first?
- 04 · Words on the tip of her tongue At the threshold of speaking — Jimin is about to tell her family the secret, but closes her mouth. Haewol: Jimin, what words have reached the tip of your tongue? Jimin: I… can’t say it yet.
Stories by Haewol
- Haewol
- After I put my child to bed, I wonder again whether to leave the work I know.
- Living expenses after retirement: where do I start?
- It’s my day off, but I couldn’t even clean.
- With so few customers, should I keep the shop open?
- Every Sunday night, I weigh living together against living apart again.
- At the dinner table, I try to choose the first sentence of my life.
- After hearing the request, I took a window seat on the bus.
- You pause mid-scroll, unsure whether to say anything