It’s only for a moment, but I still give them my password.
This is a story for anyone who feels uneasy after sharing their password whenever someone close asks to borrow their laptop for just a moment.
Scenes
- It’s only for a moment, but I still give them my password. — On Saturday afternoon, whenever someone close says they want to use my laptop for a moment, my hand only stops after I’ve handed over the password.
- I’m afraid I’ll look petty if I say no. — The request seems small, but refusing makes things more complicated because I’m afraid I’ll look like I’m suspicious of our relationship.
- I handed over the whole open screen. — Around three in the afternoon, I meant to open only what they needed, but handed over the laptop while it was still logged in.
- Trust and access aren’t the same thing. — Being close to someone doesn’t mean you have to give them access to everything inside your device. You can keep the trust and choose which screens they can access.
- Decide which screens to open first. — Today, try writing down once that after locking the screen, you’ll open only what they need yourself. It may feel awkward at first.
- Awkwardness doesn’t mean you did anything wrong. — Setting a boundary for the first time may make things awkward for a moment. Even so, next time you can ask how much access you want to give.
Stories by Suho
- Suho
- A gift comes every payday
- Someone I’d seen online was standing outside my home.
- I keep thinking about that call after the work dinner.
- After work, I’m standing at the door, and I need to change who can see my account.
- After my appointment, an offer to work together came in.
- I check the hate comments again, even after putting my child to bed.
- When I wake up, today’s plans are already decided.
- On the first night, should I open the door when someone says we have a mutual friend?