After my appointment, an offer to work together came in.
After an appointment, hearing from someone you met online who wants to work together can bring up excitement and hesitation all at once.
Scenes
- I’d just come out of my appointment when I got a message asking to work together. — Someone I met online wants to work together. It’s nice to hear, but I’m not sure whether to reply right away.
- It’s still unclear what we’d be doing together. — If there’s a name for the work but no clear role or schedule, you need to hear more about the offer first. Being close to someone doesn’t mean you have to trust the terms of the work, too.
- Check the offer and trust separately. — When someone you know online offers you work, look separately at the work details and the boundaries for staying in touch. If they ask for money or personal information upfront, pause and check that separately from the offer.
- Ask about just one blank today. — If you write back tonight, you could ask, “Could you tell me what I’d be responsible for and what the schedule would be?” You can also notice whether they rush you to answer or explain things clearly.
- There’ll still be things to check after you reply. — One question may not settle every detail of an offer right away. You can keep the offer itself and the other person’s answer separate, then continue checking what you need to know.
Stories by Suho
- Suho
- A gift comes every payday
- Someone I’d seen online was standing outside my home.
- I keep thinking about that call after the work dinner.
- After work, I’m standing at the door, and I need to change who can see my account.
- I check the hate comments again, even after putting my child to bed.
- When I wake up, today’s plans are already decided.
- On the first night, should I open the door when someone says we have a mutual friend?
- Every lunch break, when I’m alone, I want to know who they really are.