When I wake up, today’s plans are already decided.
The moment I wake up, there’s a message on my phone asking what I’m doing today. I’m still under the covers, but it feels like the day’s already been decided.
Jimin gets messages every morning asking about their routine. With Suho, they look at what it’s like to be pressed for an answer the moment they wake up.
A little after seven one morning, Jimin’s father messages to ask about their routine before Jimin is even awake. Jimin starts typing a reply, then deletes it. When the same question arrives again the next morning, they go to see Suho. In the counseling room, Jimin shows Suho the messages from their father. Suho points out that taking a moment to consider what they want to protect, before rushing to reply, can also be part of keeping safe boundaries. Jimin still hasn’t replied. The next day’s question is still on the screen.
Messages that keep asking about your routine
Even when someone close asks, you can decide how much to share.
When someone close asks about your routine, how much do you want to share?
The scene of having to explain your day before you’re even awake stays with me. I believe you can choose when and how much to share, even when someone asks about your routine. If you’re going through similar mornings, I’d like to hear your story too. We can think together about where to start.
Scenes
- 01 · The First Morning Alert The First Morning Alert — Before Jimin wakes, a message from their father is already there, asking what time they’ll get up and what they’ll do today. Father: What time are you getting up, and what are you doing today?
- 02 · A Reply, Typed and Deleted A Reply, Typed and Deleted — Jimin types a reply to their father’s question, then deletes it. They can’t even send a short message. Father: You’re still not up?
- 03 · The Next Day The Next Day — The next morning, Father asks Jimin again what time they’ll get up and what they’ll do today. Father: What are you doing today? You didn’t reply yesterday.
- 04 · Showing the Screen Showing the Screen — Jimin says their father asks about their routine every morning and shows Suho the phone. Suho: Jimin, I can see you’re stuck on how much to share in response to this question. Which part of the words on the screen is bothering you most right now? Jimin: It feels like I have to tell him everything I’m doing.
Stories by Suho
- Suho
- After my appointment, an offer to work together came in.
- I check the hate comments again, even after putting my child to bed.
- On the first night, should I open the door when someone says we have a mutual friend?
- Every lunch break, when I’m alone, I want to know who they really are.
- I used someone I knew as a go-between at the supermarket.
- Even after the family gathering, those words are still online.
- Someone I hadn’t heard from in a long time got in touch, and now I need to gather traces of the altered photos spreading.
- They keep offering me gifts even after I said no