After the funeral, they ask when the bereaved family’s home will be empty
After leaving the funeral home, a message appears in the group chat asking for the bereaved family’s address and when the house will be empty.
Scenes
- After the funeral, a request comes through the group chat — On the night they leave the funeral home, a message appears in the group chat asking for the bereaved family’s address and when the house will be empty.
- Refusing may make me seem rude — It is hard to pass the information along right away because the request comes from someone who attended the condolence visit with me, and I hesitate over whom to ask first.
- That information belongs to the bereaved family — The bereaved family’s address and the times their home will be empty are information the people living there must decide about first, before matters of condolence etiquette.
- Comfort and whereabouts should be considered separately — A safety boundary does not guess what the person asking intends. It first checks whose information it is, then decides what can be shared.
- Write down whose information it is first — Before replying, try writing in one line whose information you were asked to share. If it is not yours, start by considering not passing it along.
- Advice is not the same as opening someone else’s door for them — Even if the requests continue, Suho wants to distinguish between what the other person needs to confirm directly and where I need to stop.
Stories by Suho
- Suho
- I used someone I knew as a go-between at the supermarket.
- Even after the family gathering, those words are still online.
- Someone I hadn’t heard from in a long time got in touch, and now I need to gather traces of the altered photos spreading.
- They keep offering me gifts even after I said no
- I want to wait before replying to my online friend
- As I get ready for work, that nickname comes back to me.
- I ended the video call at the red light.
- They’re asking me to send money. Should I save the conversation first?