I want to wait before replying to my online friend
Even when I sit on a bench to take a short break, as soon as a message from my online friend arrives, I find myself replying first.
Scenes
- I reply even when I sit down to rest — I sat on a bench during my walk, but when a message from my online friend arrived, I found myself replying even while I was resting.
- I feel bad when I’m slow to reply — I worry that my friend might be waiting when my reply is late, so I end up revising the message while my walk has come to a stop.
- Closeness and instant replies are different — Even if you’re close to your online friend, you don’t always have to match their reply speed. You can set separate boundaries for closeness and communication.
- Turn off notifications until the walk is over — Today, try keeping your notifications off until you finish your walk. Notice whether not replying feels uncomfortable, and what changes while you walk.
- Notice where your time was interrupted — Even after turning off notifications, if you keep thinking about replying, notice when during your walk you wanted to open the screen.
Stories by Suho
- Suho
- I used someone I knew as a go-between at the supermarket.
- Even after the family gathering, those words are still online.
- Someone I hadn’t heard from in a long time got in touch, and now I need to gather traces of the altered photos spreading.
- They keep offering me gifts even after I said no
- As I get ready for work, that nickname comes back to me.
- I ended the video call at the red light.
- They’re asking me to send money. Should I save the conversation first?
- On my birthday morning, I saw a name I didn’t recognize.