When I get home and open the door, I look for that person again.
The moment you open the front door after work, the first thing on your mind is reaching out to one person, while other relationships slip into the background.
Scenes
- The moment I open the door, they’re the first person I think of. — As I open the front door after work, my first thought is that there’s only one person I can tell about my day.
- When they’re slow to reply, I get more anxious. — I messaged them that day, but their reply was late. I couldn’t think of anyone else to contact, so I just kept checking my phone.
- I only ask them for favors and share my feelings with them. — I told them what was weighing on me, and whenever I needed a favor, I turned to them again, even though I knew they had their own things going on.
- When it all falls to one person, the relationship can feel heavy too. — As you explore the boundaries of recovery, you look at who you rely on and for what. When one person carries many roles, there’s more for that relationship to hold.
- Tonight, write down one person you might contact. — Pause for a moment at the door tonight and write down what you’d like to share. You don’t have to decide who to send it to.
- Take your time thinking about who came to mind today. — On days when it feels like there’s only one person you can contact, you can also look at what you’ve placed on that relationship. Next time, tell me what came to mind first.
Stories by Onyu
- Onyu
- Even after the meeting, thoughts of my parents stay with me.
- Even on my day off, I answered someone else first.
- After the meeting, I come back and start figuring out my living expenses.
- Even after a meeting, I come home and have to explain why I need to rest.
- Just before clocking out, the clock reminds me of a request
- Gray hair reflected in the window on a rainy day
- Right before clocking out, I pause before canceling our plans
- Right before quitting time, just thinking about learning makes me check the clock.