We put off the decision again while doing the dishes
While doing the dishes, we bring up an important decision, then both say, “Not now,” and set it aside.
Scenes
- We put off the decision again while doing the dishes — Over dinner dishes, we bring up something important, then both say, “Not now,” and set it aside.
- We never set a time to talk again — The dishes are drying, but we haven’t decided when to revisit the decision. So the next day, we have to find a way to bring it up all over again.
- Putting it off isn’t enough — When you put off a decision as a couple, agree when to bring it up again, too. That way, one person won’t be left holding onto the conversation while you wait.
- Set a time to talk again — Tonight, ask, “When should we talk about this again?” Pick a date, and set the decision aside until then.
- The conversation stays with you — Even after setting a time to revisit it, the decision may not come easily. Still, it can change whether one person is left to keep the conversation going alone.
Stories by Cheongun
- Cheongun
- On payday, Dad asked me to pass that along
- At the light, I think of what I want to say to my family.
- At lunch, I want to choose my child’s career path for them.
- When I step out after washing and stand before the mirror, the comparisons in my family come back to me.
- After the meeting, the plans and the spur-of-the-moment ideas clash again.
- When we get home from work, the first thing we talk about at the door is caring for our parents.
- As we left the exam room, Mom asked first.
- I set aside money for my younger sibling from my first paycheck