After the interview, I’m unsure whether I should talk to that person again.
Even after the interview, I keep thinking about the way that person spoke and the look in their eyes.
Scenes
- They seemed like a good person. Would it be okay to see them again? — The interview is over, but I keep thinking about the way they spoke. I can’t tell whether reaching out again would be an opportunity or just wishful thinking.
- Let’s look separately at the moment that stayed with you. — When you separate what they said from how you reacted in that moment, your feelings of attraction and what you actually observed gradually become easier to tell apart.
- The annual cycle looks at your present attraction; the major cycle looks at what it takes to continue. — In myeongri, the annual cycle looks at this year's encounters and reactions; the major cycle looks at lasting choices. Neither defines the other person.
- Write the facts and your reaction in two separate lines. — Write down “what they said” and “what came to mind when I heard it” separately. Then one thing you want to ask next will remain.
- The next meeting doesn’t have to be where you decide the answer. — Even if today’s attraction lingers, you can learn more from what you actually talk about in the next conversation. Start by deciding the one thing you want to know.
Stories by Dowon
- Dowon
- After the holiday, I find myself wanting to try something new.
- I can’t choose a move-out date in the hospital waiting room
- After the work dinner, I wonder if working with people is right for me.
- When I stop exercising, it feels like the life I want gets put off too.
- While doing the dishes, another path came to mind.
- Why do the words come easily in the car, but stop when I’m with them?
- After the interview, choosing substance over expansion
- Since my body changed, even familiar tasks feel unfamiliar.