Why do the words come easily in the car, but stop when I’m with them?
I practice what I want to say to my partner in the car again and again, but when we meet, I end up talking about something else.
Scenes
- The words come to me only in the car — I practice talking about what hurt me with my partner over and over in the car. When we meet, I end up talking about something else and heading home.
- The moment I swallow my words — Your partner smiles as usual, unaware. You smile along and miss another chance to bring up what hurt you.
- When feelings arrive before words — Saju temperament is a map for exploring how quickly you feel emotions and how you put them into words. When feelings rise first, the words may come later.
- Say it to yourself first today — In the car, write down in one sentence what you wanted to say to your partner. Then notice where your feelings catch.
- Even if the words come late, the feelings remain — Even if you can't say that sentence today, the feelings that came to you in the car haven't disappeared. We can explore them together when you bring it up next time, too.
Stories by Dowon
- Dowon
- When she’s slow to reply, I ask my daughter again.
- Every weekend afternoon, I go over my fixed costs again.
- I can't get to my plan even after putting my child to bed.
- After the holiday, I find myself wanting to try something new.
- I can’t choose a move-out date in the hospital waiting room
- After the work dinner, I wonder if working with people is right for me.
- When I stop exercising, it feels like the life I want gets put off too.
- While doing the dishes, another path came to mind.