Different standards for tidiness, choosing dinner at the convenience store
On the way home from work, I pause over a late dinner at the convenience store, even thinking about the things at home.
Scenes
- Choosing dinner brings home to mind — At nine p.m., I’m choosing dinner in front of the convenience store fridge when the shopping bags piled up at home come to mind.
- I freeze when they say, “Let’s clear it out” — At home, one person leaves shopping bags piled up, while the other says to keep only what they use.
- It’s about use, not tidiness — The same thing may be useful to one person right now, but something the other wants put away.
- Choose just one dinner dish together — Tonight, as you choose one dish to share, think about something at home you’d like to decide on together.
- Standards don’t align all at once — You may disagree today, too. Still, as you gradually learn what to decide together, the conversation can become more concrete.
Stories by Cheongun
- Cheongun
- When childhood comes up, we say less as we each search for an answer.
- On my birthday morning, the talk turns to caring for my parents again
- When someone believes you’re in pain
- I came home without apologizing to my child.
- In the waiting room, before deciding who should apologize
- I’m not sure how much to tell my spouse about the get-together with my friends.
- When I bring up the money I lent, our walk comes to a stop.
- I get short with you when I’m driving.