I’m not sure how much to tell my spouse about the get-together with my friends.
After getting back from a get-together with friends, I’m not sure how much to tell my spouse.
Scenes
- I bring up the get-together in the salon mirror — I’m unsure whether to tell my spouse what happened at the get-together with friends. As the stylist trims my hair, I keep thinking about it.
- Whether to tell, between the snips — I’m afraid my spouse might feel uncomfortable if I tell them what happened at the get-together with friends. The stylist cuts my hair while I search for the right words.
- Boundaries are words for what you’ll both keep — In a marriage, boundaries aren’t rules that keep you from seeing friends. They’re promises you make together so you can both feel comfortable about get-togethers.
- You can start with what happened — If you bring it up when you get home, try talking separately about what actually happened at the get-together with friends and the promises you’d like to make.
- You don’t have to agree right away. You can talk it through again. — If you don’t agree on a promise in your first conversation, it’s okay to listen to each other again and work out what you can both stick to, step by step.
Stories by Cheongun
- Cheongun
- Before turning the calendar page
- When I bring up wanting time alone, my commute gets longer.
- On payday, Dad asked me to pass that along
- At the light, I think of what I want to say to my family.
- At lunch, I want to choose my child’s career path for them.
- When I step out after washing and stand before the mirror, the comparisons in my family come back to me.
- After the meeting, the plans and the spur-of-the-moment ideas clash again.
- When we get home from work, the first thing we talk about at the door is caring for our parents.