At dinner, I follow others’ choices before my own cravings

Even in the brief moment of choosing a menu, I first go along with what others want, and only after I get home do I remember what I wanted to eat.

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The moment I see the menu, I look to everyone else first — When someone chooses first at dinner, I nod along with their choice instead of saying what I want to eat.
Only after I get home do I remember what I wanted to eat — Only after the meal do I remember the menu I meant to mention. By then, everyone had already decided.
In Myeongni, we look at reactions before choices — We don’t use saju temperament like a chart of fate. We look side by side at how my response changes before and after someone else decides.
Today, check your own choice once before answering — When someone asks what you want from the menu, briefly check, “What do I want to eat?” instead of immediately going along. It’s okay if your answer takes a little longer.
Even if nothing changes at first, your choice starts to come into view — If you went along again today, just write that down. Next time, we can look together at when your own words grew quieter—before or after you chose.