At dinner, explanations come before how I feel

This is a story for anyone who explains everything that happened that day before realizing what they actually wanted.

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Explanations come before how I feel — Once I've told them everything that happened, the words I really wanted to say have slipped beneath the table.
I need to say everything to feel at ease — If I stop halfway, I feel like I've left something out, so I tend to explain the situation before attending to how I feel.
That one question grew long — Even after hearing, “So what do you want to do?” at the table, I went back and started with the very first thing I'd heard.
Explanations can be a way of protecting your heart — In the Four Pillars tradition, temperament isn't divided into good or bad. It also looks at the pattern of gathering lots of information before moving toward what you want.
Write down just one sentence first — Tonight, before explaining, write down, “What do I want right now?” It's okay if the answer stays unclear.
Your feelings don't arrive later than your explanations — Even when things aren't clear from the start, the words that lean toward what you want remain. Start with that one sentence, and look for your next step.