It’s my day off, but I keep having to say where I am
From the start of a day off, someone asks where you are and reaches out again if your reply is late.
Scenes
- I stop again while trying to start the washing machine — When a message saying “Where are you right now?” arrives on a day off, you stop what you were doing and focus on choosing a reply.
- I worry things will get worse if I reply late — You start worrying less about the time you leave a message unanswered and more about what messages will follow.
- It won’t stop until I say where I am — Two more calls came after the message at 10 a.m. In the end, I replied that I was home.
- Safety boundaries are different from reply speed — When it comes to safety boundaries, first sort out whether it’s urgent or whether someone keeps intruding on your time and whereabouts. The repeated contact is also something worth keeping a record of.
- Save the message before replying — Tonight, try saving just one message before choosing a reply. Then turn off notifications for a while so you can look back and see what was actually urgent.
- One reply may not be enough to end it — If they contact you again even after you turn off notifications, it’s time to look at the repeated access itself—not just whether to reply. Is that happening now too?
Stories by Suho
- Suho
- Someone I’d seen online was standing outside my home.
- I keep thinking about that call after the work dinner.
- After work, I’m standing at the door, and I need to change who can see my account.
- After my appointment, an offer to work together came in.
- I check the hate comments again, even after putting my child to bed.
- When I wake up, today’s plans are already decided.
- On the first night, should I open the door when someone says we have a mutual friend?
- Every lunch break, when I’m alone, I want to know who they really are.