Even while doing the dishes, I drift apart from a friend over the same thing.
Whenever I get close to a friend, the same hurt feelings come up again. In Myeongri, we look at your saju temperament and the ways you tend to relate to…
Scenes
- I think I've drifted apart from another friend. — When I do the dishes, I think again about the time things went wrong with my friend. I wonder if it was for a similar reason this time, too.
- An evening spent waiting for a reply — After her friend postponed their plans, Jimin didn't ask about getting together again. When the reply was late, she couldn't say she felt hurt.
- Temperament shapes how we relate — In Myeongri, saju temperament isn't the reason you lose friends. It's a guide to noticing whether you tend to accommodate others first or put off saying when something feels uncomfortable.
- Write just one sentence today — After doing the dishes today, write one sentence on a piece of paper: “What I wanted to say then.” You don't have to send it. It may help you see where the words got stuck.
- Even if it happens again, things can go differently next time — Saju temperament can offer clues to a recurring pattern. The fact that plans were postponed and your friend's feelings are separate things to consider. Between them, you can look for the kind of relationship you want, Jimin.
Stories by Dowon
- Dowon
- I’m still standing outside my child’s room as the morning slips away.
- A mistake that followed her to the parking lot
- Every time I check the clock just before I leave work, I wonder whether to move our plans up.
- I start to say no, then swallow the words under the covers.
- When I try to write down my experience, all I can see is the work I’ve always done.
- When she’s slow to reply, I ask my daughter again.
- Every weekend afternoon, I go over my fixed costs again.
- I can't get to my plan even after putting my child to bed.