After getting the kids to bed, I wonder if I’m ready to date someone new.
Once the kids are asleep, I find myself thinking again about when to meet up with the person I’ve been talking to.
Scenes
- Once the kids are asleep, I think about making plans. — After getting the kids to bed, I find myself wondering if I should make plans to meet again with the person I’ve been talking to.
- I freeze when they ask about next time — They suggested meeting next week, but I start writing a reply and delete it. Finding someone to watch the kids and sorting out my own feelings both weigh on me.
- A new relationship and life’s bigger patterns can be considered separately — Your major and annual cycles can’t tell you the right answer about someone new. They’re a way to look at how you might share your time and energy in your life right now.
- Today, write down what’s making you hesitate — Before you reply, finish this in one line: “What’s making me hesitate right now is…” It can help you see your feelings and practical concerns separately.
- Before deciding whether to meet, see what time you can manage — The pace of a new relationship isn’t determined by life’s bigger patterns alone. You also have to consider the childcare schedule and the plans you make together.
Stories by Dowon
- Dowon
- After the holiday, I find myself wanting to try something new.
- I can’t choose a move-out date in the hospital waiting room
- After the work dinner, I wonder if working with people is right for me.
- When I stop exercising, it feels like the life I want gets put off too.
- While doing the dishes, another path came to mind.
- Why do the words come easily in the car, but stop when I’m with them?
- After the interview, choosing substance over expansion
- Since my body changed, even familiar tasks feel unfamiliar.