Things were decided in my name
This is a story for anyone who hesitates to correct someone in a group chat for deciding something in their name before they were asked, worried they might…
Scenes
- Things were decided in my name — Someone posted in the group chat, “They’re okay with it too.” But I hadn’t said anything yet.
- What if correcting it makes me seem strange? — If I say it’s wrong, I feel like I’m putting them in an awkward spot. But if I stay quiet, I’m left looking like I agreed.
- My hand stopped before the meeting — A new notification appeared in the group chat before the meeting. I opened and closed the reply box, then took a screenshot first.
- Public words can look like consent — Online, words someone chooses for you can remain as a record and be read as consent. So before objecting, leave the facts on record first.
- Leave just one brief fact — Today, try writing first: “I haven’t confirmed that yet.” Before adding more explanation, it creates a pause around what was decided in your name.
- My name is used only when I speak for myself — It’s okay if you couldn’t be firm from the start. Next time, begin by checking who decided what, and the line you need to protect will gradually become clearer.
Stories by Suho
- Suho
- Someone I’d seen online was standing outside my home.
- I keep thinking about that call after the work dinner.
- After work, I’m standing at the door, and I need to change who can see my account.
- After my appointment, an offer to work together came in.
- I check the hate comments again, even after putting my child to bed.
- When I wake up, today’s plans are already decided.
- On the first night, should I open the door when someone says we have a mutual friend?
- Every lunch break, when I’m alone, I want to know who they really are.