I start to say I’m hurt, then just turn the calendar page.
When a new month begins, I think about telling my partner what hurt me, but when I actually turn the calendar page, I put it off again.
Scenes
- I think about saying it, then put it off again. — I open the new month’s calendar and think about telling my partner what hurt me last month. I just turn the page and can’t say it.
- Our plans changed — My partner made other plans on the day we’d agreed to spend together. They did tell me first, but that day was ours.
- Separate what happened from what you hoped for — When talking about hurt in a relationship, it helps to separate what happened from what you hoped for: what took place, and what you wanted at the time.
- Tonight, write down just one thing — Tonight, beside the calendar, briefly write “our plans changed” and “I wanted us to talk it over first.” It can help you figure out what to say.
- It’s okay if you can’t say much — Even if you can’t say it all at once, what happened and what you hoped for are still there. Yeonhwa also helps you look at where the words got stuck that day.
Stories by Yeonhwa
- Yeonhwa
- On payday, I sent my heart, but got a joke back
- At the company dinner, I wonder if I can let go of an old habit.
- My heart feels torn on the way to work
- I was only being kind. Why am I being called a flirt?
- When payday comes, I count who likes whom more.
- The way people spend at work dinners keeps catching my attention.
- I keep thinking about the conversation that ended, every afternoon.
- On my way to work, I heard about a big expense.