I was only being kind. Why am I being called a flirt?
I was warm with everyone, but one day someone said I seemed to be “leading people on.” After that, I started choosing my words more carefully.
Scenes
- I Was Only Being Kind — Since someone said I seemed to be “leading people on” this afternoon, I can’t focus on my work.
- I replied like I always do — I replied to their message the way I do to my other coworkers. I never asked them to meet one-on-one or said I liked them.
- Kindness isn’t a promise — When you’re figuring out the boundaries of a relationship, separate kind gestures from promises you both agreed to. The other person’s label isn’t proof of a promise.
- Write down just one thing you said — Today, write down one thing you actually said or promised. Set the label the other person used beside it, and read them separately.
- You don’t have to doubt your kindness — If those words come back to you, try separating what you said from the label the other person used. We can also look at relationship boundaries that are more complicated.
Stories by Yeonhwa
- Yeonhwa
- At the company dinner, I wonder if I can let go of an old habit.
- My heart feels torn on the way to work
- When payday comes, I count who likes whom more.
- The way people spend at work dinners keeps catching my attention.
- I keep thinking about the conversation that ended, every afternoon.
- On my way to work, I heard about a big expense.
- On their birthday morning, you hold back the greeting, afraid your feelings might show.
- I want to choose someone to live with, but I’m just waiting for the tarot reading.