They’re asking me to send a photo of the condolence guest list.

Scenes

• They’re asking me to send the list photo. — I left the funeral home and checked my phone. There was a message asking me to send a photo of the condolence guest list.
• Would refusing seem too cold? — I’m more careful because we only met there. After I send it, I can’t stop wondering who might see those names.
• My hand opened the photo first. — Around ten that night, I got home and opened the photo again, looking through the other person’s contact details and the list to the very end.
• Grief can blur our boundaries. — At a funeral home, refusing can feel colder, so it’s easy to send something right away. But once the list is passed on, it’s hard to know how far it might spread.
• Leave time to check instead of sending the photo. — Save the request screen today, but don’t send it. Tomorrow, you can ask your family first whether it’s okay to share the photo.
• Even when your heart feels heavy, you don’t have to open it right away. — That message sat between courtesy and privacy. Leaving it closed for a while can also be a way to protect someone’s name.