The night you look for compatibility first in an unfamiliar home

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• On the first night after moving, you check your compatibility first — Even after closing the door to your new home, you can’t settle, so you look over your compatibility again.
• Is the house unfamiliar, or are we simply not a good match? — It was only one cabinet I didn’t like, but suddenly it feels as if we chose both this home and each other wrong.
• You reopen the compatibility chart even after turning out the lights — Sitting on the living room floor of the new home, you set down the key and stare for a long while at the room name written on the box instead of your phone.
• You give meaning to the unfamiliar feeling first — A compatibility reading is one way to look at a relationship. But when you read even the first day’s unfamiliarity as a result, real discomfort and worry get bundled together.
• Write down just one discomfort — Before looking further into your compatibility today, write down one thing that actually felt uncomfortable in this home. You can look for its meaning later.
• The unfamiliarity of the first day is not the answer — When I look at a couple’s compatibility too, I first look at what they actually said and did with each other that day, rather than the result. It’s okay to stop here tonight.