After I ask my partner if they’re okay, my own feelings take a back seat again.
After my family falls asleep, I’m still awake on my own, and I keep thinking about asking my partner if they were okay.
Scenes
- I’m still awake after my family has gone to sleep. — After I ask my partner if they’re okay, the night grows late before I ask how I feel.
- I look at their expression first. — If their reply is short, I ask again if they’re okay, then end the conversation without telling them about my day.
- Why I Set My Feelings Aside — Self-care starts with noticing my own signals. When I check on them first, I notice those signals later.
- Today, let’s choose just one word. — Before bed, think of one thing you said to your partner today, and write down how you felt then in one word.
- It’s okay if nothing comes to mind right away. — The word may not come right away. Next time, we can also look at what came to mind first.
Stories by Dalbit
- Dalbit
- On Friday evening, I was left alone in a room with the light on.
- After saying you’re okay on your first day
- I get asked for favors every lunch break
- There’s someone you think of when you’re sick, but on payday, you hesitate.
- When I get back from a celebration, I start doubting the story I’ve made up about myself.
- At lunch on her first day, one chair was left empty
- After hearing my friend’s news, I fall behind at work
- On the way home, I keep thinking of the same old advice.