When I stop running, what you said hurts more.
In the brief pause to catch my breath, your words come back to me. I couldn’t tell you right away that they hurt—not because I’m weak, but because when I’m out…
Scenes
- Your words come back when I catch my breath. — When I stop running to catch my breath, what you said comes back to me. I laughed it off then, but now it hurts.
- I acted like it was fine in the moment. — My friend said, “You always think only about yourself,” because I kept putting off our plans to work out. I didn’t answer and just laughed, but the words stuck with me.
- Sometimes hurt becomes clear later. — When you’re out of breath, it’s hard to check in with your feelings and choose your words. To steady your feelings, first let your body settle, then name what you feel.
- Today, write down just one sentence. — After your workout, as you drink some water, try writing, “What you said hurt me.” Once it’s written down, you can decide whether to say it now or sit with it a little longer.
- You can decide later when to talk. — Even after noticing that you feel hurt, you can take your time deciding when and how to talk to your friend. Today, just notice that their words stayed with you.
Stories by Dalbit
- Dalbit
- On Friday evening, I was left alone in a room with the light on.
- After saying you’re okay on your first day
- I get asked for favors every lunch break
- There’s someone you think of when you’re sick, but on payday, you hesitate.
- When I get back from a celebration, I start doubting the story I’ve made up about myself.
- At lunch on her first day, one chair was left empty
- After hearing my friend’s news, I fall behind at work
- On the way home, I keep thinking of the same old advice.