When I erase a moment I loved through someone else’s eyes
This story is for anyone who took out their phone, delighted by the first snow, then deleted their photo after seeing everyone else’s.
Scenes
- I delete my first-snow photo right away — I took it because I was happy to see the snow, but after looking at other people’s photos, mine suddenly seems pitiful.
- I even hesitate to say I liked it — It was a moment I enjoyed without needing to show anyone, but when there’s no reaction, I feel as if I was wrong to like it.
- I take a photo, then open the screen again — After photographing the first snow by the window before work, I scroll through the group chat photos and slide only mine into the trash.
- I had been measuring my feelings by people’s reactions — Self-esteem isn’t the strength to always look confident. It’s closer to the strength to keep what I liked as my own experience, even before anyone else recognizes it.
- Leave one line in your own words below the photo — You don’t have to post the photo you took today. Instead, try writing beneath it, “I liked this scene.” It may feel awkward at first.
- The feeling I loved doesn’t disappear — You may still want to delete the photo next time. But if you pause to look at your feelings before looking for others’ reactions, you’re already standing somewhere different.
Stories by Dalbit
- Dalbit
- On Friday evening, I was left alone in a room with the light on.
- After saying you’re okay on your first day
- I get asked for favors every lunch break
- There’s someone you think of when you’re sick, but on payday, you hesitate.
- When I get back from a celebration, I start doubting the story I’ve made up about myself.
- At lunch on her first day, one chair was left empty
- After hearing my friend’s news, I fall behind at work
- On the way home, I keep thinking of the same old advice.